Have you ever found yourself comparing yourself to others? Do you look at what someone else is doing and think, “I wish that was me!”? You probably answered yes and that is because we all do it. It is human nature to compare yourself to others. However, for you to be your true self, you cannot be concerned with how you are compared to others. You are equipped with talents and gifts that are unique to you! You have something to offer this world. You will not offer much if you are not being your authentic self.
Here are some tips to begin breaking the habit of comparing yourself with others:
Focus on your strengths: It’s easy to look at our weaknesses. However, begin asking yourself what your strengths are. Try to make a list of 5 of your strengths. Then celebrate them! Be proud of them! That is what makes you, you! Work on using your strengths to your advantage.
Be comfortable with imperfection: I am not perfect. You are not perfect. It’s time that we confront that and be OK with that fact. Areas of imperfection is what makes you who you are. Find ways to improve, but do not think you will be a perfect person.
You have your own journey: Life is not a competition. Life is a journey. We are all on our own journey. My path in life is different than yours, but neither path is better. If you remain on your own journey, you will celebrate your successes more because you stayed true to yourself.
Don’t tear someone else down: It is very important to not knock someone down in order to feel better about yourself. You form an enemy when you do this. Instead, you could form a friendship, a mentorship, or this could be a future business partner.
Reflect on these two quotes:
“Other people’s lives seem better than yours because you’re comparing their director’s cuts with your behind the scenes.” - Evan Rauch
“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.” - Shannon Alder